We cannot love another until we can love ourselves. What we don't love about ourselves will only be projected onto another. This is not love, it will only be a need. So it may seem selfish to focus on ourselves and to learn to love ourselves but until we do we cannot truly love another. Loving ourselves is essential. As parents what we don't like about ourselves we project onto our children. So it … [Read more...]
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I tried to teach my child with books, he gave me only puzzled looks. I tried to teach my child with words, they pass him by unheard. In despair I turned aside, "How will I teach my child?" I cried. Into my hand he put the key. Come he said, "Come play with me". (Author Unknown) … [Read more...]
What makes us angry?
For many of us we start out in life wanting to be the best parent we can be, and for some of us we don’t want to make the same mistakes that our parents made. We have so many good intentions, and so many ideas, so why when it comes to reality, do things just not go as we would have liked them too? Why do we find ourselves getting angry and upset, when we really don’t want to be? And for some we … [Read more...]
Children who use baby talk.
What is it that children are trying to tell you when they revert back to baby language or baby ways? What do we see as the adult? What is our first reaction? “Don’t act like a baby?” Maybe these would be your words, or “Grow up.” If we actually hear our words they may seem justifiable to us, but alien to a child, for that child may be communicating their needs or trying to return to a stage of … [Read more...]
What a child sees in his mother’s eyes,
he becomes.
Imagine a baby who cries, who is trying to tell you that he/she is stressed and is in need of comfort and nurturing. Imagine that his/her needs are met by a loving parent who has all the time to help give him/her the ability to understand why they may be feeling this way. As a parent we are then able to help the child regulate their stresses and their fears, allowing them to feel regulated again, … [Read more...]