We cannot love another until we can love ourselves. What we don’t love about ourselves will only be projected onto another. This is not love, it will only be a need. So it may seem selfish to focus on ourselves and to learn to love ourselves but until we do we cannot truly love another. Loving ourselves is essential. As parents what we don’t like about ourselves we project onto our children. So it makes sense not to give our children what we dislike about ourselves because this just repeats the cycle. Instead we need to learn to love ourselves so our children will love themselves and in turn truly love their children. So how do we love ourselves?
We need to love the things we don’t like about ourselves and understand why these parts of us exists. Every part of us exists for a reason. It may be for survival or to protect us from critical parents or parents that cannot accept us the way we are. There are many reason but whatever message we are given as children we take with us into adulthood. This is the record player that then exists inside of us, going round and around until we finally believe it. We then believe it so much that we start to say the same things to our children, or our partners. Whatever we project to another is a message for ourselves. Learn to love you and stop listening to your critical voice. The voice you may have been given but a voice that is not always right.
Sometimes we don’t always know where our critical or negative voice has come form. Inner child therapy helps us to find where are negativity originates from in order to change it. Find your inner voice and find peace with yourself. Learn to love yourself and learn to love others. Find peace it’s worth more than all the money and success you can achieve.
Give the outside up to turn in or you will always be on the outside looking in. Find who you truly are and learn to love yourself. footprint logo